Children don't often get much say in the aftermath of a divorce. Parents make decisions, and courts make rulings, all seemingly with the best interests of the child in mind. Until recent generations, courts assumed that it was dangerous to separate a child from its mother - especially overnight - until the child was old enough to attend school. For this reason, both fathers and children may have missed important opportunities to bond.
When negotiating a parenting plan with your soon-to-be ex-spouse, there are a couple of broad goals that you are looking to achieve. First, the terms of the agreement must address the best interests of the child. Second, it is best if the agreement is clear, concise and as fair as possible to all the parties involved.
When you first got married, you probably never envisioned yourself standing in divorce court. Just as most other new spouses in Washington (or wherever you lived at the time) you most likely believed you and your spouse would be together the rest of your lives. Whether things slowly entered a downward spiral over time, or one sudden, unexpected major event occurred that was the catalyst for the beginning to the end of your marriage, it obviously became clear at some point that you were headed for divorce.
Are you one of many people in Washington who keeps a close eye on celebrities and the ups and downs of their relationships? One of the most closely watched couples is Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt. From the first rumors about a divorce a long time ago, until the shocking news that this couple finally filed for divorce in September, the scrutiny continues as rumors of Pitt abusing one or more of the children were quashed. Now, the focus is on who will have child custody and how will they arrange parenting and visitation.
If you are a divorced parent who enjoys taking an active part in your child's life, sharing time in a joint-custody arrangement can be a challenge. You no longer have the option of just walking into his or her room anytime for a chat or to help with homework. And you may even feel a void and wonder what to do with yourself now that you are under such limitations.
Many people think of the holidays as a time to spend connecting with family, friends and other loved ones. However, as the department stores start to build their wintry window displays and holiday songs echo through the corridors of the local mall, some parents in Washington may be experiencing feelings other than excitement.
In our last post, we began looking in a general way at the adoption process here in Washington. As we noted last time, each adoption case involves its own unique issues, even if the general process and goal is the same. Having an experienced attorney to guide one through the process can help ensure that everything goes as smoothly as possible.