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5 Questions to Ask Before Moving Forward with Divorce

Divorce, like marriage, is one of the biggest decisions of a person’s life. Marriage is often carefully considered and involves a lot of planning. People tend not to give the same consideration to divorce. If you are reading this article, then divorce is something on your mind. We are proud of you for taking the first step to research it. Now it is time to consider what it would actually mean.

Here are our 5 questions to ask yourself before moving forward with a divorce:

Am I communicating clearly? Do you think your spouse is also privately considering divorce – or do you think they have no idea that anything is wrong? If it’s the latter, we are not saying it is necessarily your fault. Communication is essential to a relationship, and that involves both speaking and listening. If your frustrations are being ignored, try to find new ways to communicate them to your spouse – even just so you can say that you tried.

What does your life look like without your spouse? A divorce is a gigantic lifestyle change. For some couples who have been married their entire adult life, it may mean living alone for the first time ever. It will mean not seeing someone every day who you are used to sharing a home with. It will mean changes to your schedule, your work, your entire life as you know it. Can you imagine what those changes will be and how you will handle them?

Who else will be affected? If you have children with your spouse, this is a primary concern. Many adults are children of divorce themselves, and know what it felt like. Consider how your children will be affected by the process. Even if you don’t have children, take a moment to consider the effect on shared friends and family. Keep in mind that even if you do not get a divorce, all of these people are already being affected by the conflict between you and your spouse.

Am I financially prepared for divorce? No matter what your financial situation is, you will be living with less income than you currently are after a divorce. It is an expensive process as well, and you should begin saving as early as you can. Financially, divorce is a major lifestyle shift, so make sure you are dedicated to the process before beginning it.

Will I be happier without my spouse? This is the most important question to ask yourself. If your spouse was no longer in your life, would you actually be happier every day? You probably already know the answer to that question, and that means you probably already know whether you want a divorce or not.

Divorce is a necessary process for many couples, but it is not something to be taken lightly. Make sure you know what you want and what it will take to get it before diving in. For a fuller understanding of the divorce process, and help with any step of the journey, contact Akiona Law today. We offer supportive, experienced guidance toward efficient, cost-effective solutions.