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When to compromise in your Washington divorce (and when not to)

A top goal for many seeking a divorce in Washington is getting it over with as quickly and painlessly as possible. We cannot blame you for feeling this way, but over-compromising to end the process is typically a mistake.

Before you give in to any or all demands from your spouse, make sure you are not giving up anything you highly value. In other words, cultivate your ability to compromise so that you can get what you want or need without upsetting your spouse.

Compromising over property division

In matters of marital property in Washington state, there is typically room for compromise. A good approach is to decide what kind of property settlement you desire early on in your divorce. Make a list of what you want, and then tick off a few items or assets you are willing to give up during negotiations.

Doing this gives you some items with which to compromise. Your spouse may feel you are giving up something you value, which could make them more open to compromise themselves.

Avoid over-compromising on child-related matters

When your child custody rights are at stake, you must be careful when compromising. Many parents enter the custody stage of divorce wanting a simple and easy-to-follow custody arrangement. A better approach is to consider your kids and the kind of plan that is best for them. That way, you can enter negotiations prepared to fight for the best interests of your children without over-compromising.

We recommend learning more about the divorce and custody laws in our state. While many law firms will tell you what you want to hear, we make it a point to tell our clients what they need to hear. There may be more than one solution to your problems, and every situation is unique.