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How do collaborative divorce and mediation differ?

Collaborative divorce and mediation are two ways for couples to legalize a separation without going to court. While both methods aim to help couples reach agreements amicably, there are key differences between them.

Before quickly opting for one choice or the other, a couple who is preparing for a separation should review the pros and cons of each alternative.

The key elements of collaborative divorce

In collaborative divorce, spouses formally agree to settle differences outside of court. However, each side still brings its own legal resources to the matter. The goal is to negotiate an agreement that satisfies both parties while preserving privacy.

This process involves multiple meetings where couples discuss their concerns openly and work together to reach a resolution. Other professionals may come in to provide input, including therapists and parenting coaches.

Collaborative divorce emphasizes teamwork, honesty and respect. The process can move faster than a contested divorce, especially if the couple can reach negotiations quickly. However, disagreements can prolong the process.

How mediation works

On the other hand, mediation proceedings involve a neutral third party instead of a judge. This individual guides the couple through discussions to help them come to an agreement. The mediator facilitates communication and helps identify issues but does not provide legal advice or make decisions.

This process can be more cost-effective and less time-consuming than even collaborative divorce. It tends to put less focus on legalities and concentrates on empowering the spouses to cooperate for an outcome.

Considerations for deciding between the two methods

Since mediation tends to be faster and cost less than a collaborative divorce, couples might consider it to be the ideal choice. This may be true, particularly when the pair does not have difficulty communicating openly and matters are relatively straightforward.

However, if a couple has complex business, family or legal issues to navigate, collaborative divorce could be more suitable. Investing in the additional time and input from professionals can ensure a mutually beneficial outcome. Collaborative divorce can also be preferable when the potential for high emotional conflict exists.

While both collaborative divorce and mediation offer alternatives to traditional litigation, they differ in their approach, duration and cost. Each method has its advantages, and understanding their differences can help couples choose the method that suits their needs and preferences when navigating the divorce process.